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The Perfect Gay

Book

Break free from shame and guilt, stop fitting in, and proudly live your desires with my e-book.

 

My book is a powerful guide for gay men who want to stop worrying about what others think and start being proud of who they are. This book explores why we often need approval from others and explains how that can lead to feelings of shame and self-doubt.

 

With simple steps and helpful advice, The Perfect Gay shows readers how to better understand themselves, build confidence, and find true pride. It’s about letting go of the need to please others and learning to feel good about who you really are.

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Stop seeking approval from others

Facing the Pressure to Be Perfect

Do you feel pressured to live up to idealized standards in appearance, success, and relationships? 

Living for Approval

Are you stuck in an exhausting cycle of seeking validation—from friends, family, or society—that leaves you feeling empty and frustrated? 

Struggling to Belong

Do you feel you don’t truly belong and are constantly adapting to fit in? 

Transform approval into pride and belonging

Find pride in yourself right now

Stop caring what others think
 

Build resilience to approval

Become confident in ourselves
 

Allow who we truly are to come forward

Be happier by being youself and finding belonging

Stop seeking approval from others

I've taken the latest psychological research on shame and created a handbook to help gay men move past approval and validation to find pride in themselves.

This guide is straightforward and approachable, with hands-on exercises to guide your progress and help you grow.

 

It deals explicitly with how shame interacts with gay men and people with different sexualities.

What's in the book

16,000 words over 80 pages

With practical help and advice you put into action straight away

17 excercises

Actionable work that wll transform how you view yourself.

specific help for gay men

Gay men interpret shame and approval very differently from hetero sexualities. I specifically go into this and what a gay man needs to be aware of.

based on expert researcH

Including jungian psychology, shadow work, gay shame research, and male and women shame research

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Designed to be read on mobile, tablet and desktop

I feel much more open to being myself and willing to write and speak my boundaries, so I can live trusting myself and my needs instead of living with shame and fear in daily life.

Daniel

The Perfect Gay

E-Book

Helping people shed shame, stop seeking approval from others, and embrace their desires with pride and freedom

Stop seeking approval

Find out your specific needs for approval and how you can overcome them to be yourself

Stop hiding yourself

Be yourself rather than what everyone else wants you to be, and let go of the exhausting need to be the ideal gay man

Based on best practice research

Based on the latest research on shame for gay men, along with specific research on women and men

Specific help for gay men and queer people

How gay men can transform shame and approval into validation and people-pleasing

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  • Is this an ebook
    Yes! This ebook has been custom-formatted for mobile, tablet or computer use.
  • Will this be available as a physical book?
    Not yet. If you are interested, email me at phil (@) courageto.be. Once enough people show interest, I will consider making a physical book.
  • Can I get a refund?
    No. Since this is an electronic book, all purchases are considered final.
  • What payment methods do you accept?
    I accept various payment methods, including credit/debit cards, Apple Pay, Google Pay
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