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Helping gay men build confidence to be themselves and find belonging

English-speaking Gay Coaching in Berlin - In-person and online coaching available

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STRUGGLE TO FIT IN

Compare yourself to other gay people and feel you’re not good enough or don’t deserve to be there.

Want to connect to gay people, but you have no idea where you fit? All you know is that you’re not part of the uber-trendy crowd.

WANT TO FEEL SAFE

ESCAPE

To feel safe enough to be yourself as a queer man in a straight world.

You walk into a gay bar with that uncomfortable feeling. You have no idea how to interact or what to do; all you want to do is flee. Perhaps you walk around the bar and leave again without having a drink.

3 gay men in cozy London flat looking happy and confident

You can be included and be yourself as a gay man in Berlin

BELONG

Find your space and feel the warm hug of belonging. You’re exactly where you need to be, and you can be completely, unequivocally yourself, and it feels exactly right.

STOP COMING OUT AGAIN AND AGAIN

Shed the mask, live unapologetically, and let your true self shine. Go out and be seen for the incredible person you truly are

BREAK FREE

Break free from the box of expectations — from friends, family, society. It's time to stop the endless cycle of coming out and pursue your dreams with confidence and courage

I can help you get here!

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I'm Phil
English Speaking Gay Life Coach Helping Men in Berlin

Not fitting into one box meant the gay scene never fulfilled me as I hoped. With low confidence, I struggled to be seen or heard. I was successful as a leader, but I struggled outside of work. 

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And over time, even work felt boring. I began to feel depressed and question if anything had meaning.

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I eventually found my way to a life of confidence, breaking out of the box to be myself.

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I now know there's a path to a life where you can drop the masks and find joy, confidence and belonging.​

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Set up a free call with me and take that next step.

Courage to be - Berlin

1:1 SIGNATURE COACHING PROGRAMME
TO BUILD GAY CONFIDENCE
FROM THE COMFORT OF HOME

In just 4 months, my programme will give you the confidence and courage to be yourself. Discover a place where belonging feels like a warm hug and where you can be completely and unapologetically you.
 
I work with a limited number of clients to ensure you receive my full attention and focus.
 
Think of me as your gay personal trainer for your confidence. I'll be the supportive guide you've been wanting and missing all of these years.

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BUILD YOUR GAY CONFIDENCE THROUGH YOUR EXPLORER

  • Working from the inside out, we explore you to understand who you truly are and what you want. In doing so, we discover the difference between fitting in and following your true desire.

  • Feel your confidence grow as you learn who you are and connect to your passions and joy.

LIVE BOLDLY AS A GAY MAN WITH YOUR WARRIOR

  • Understanding who you are is just the beginning. It’s time to live it. Embrace your inner warrior and shed other’s expectations. It's your time — live boldly, authentically, on your own terms, and without camouflage. Your story, your rules.

  • Then, pursue your dreams with courage, embracing the thrill of each leap. This is your moment — live boldly, guided by your heart's true desires.

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Two gay men tenderly hugging

HEAL AND BUILD UNBREAKABLE RESILIENCE 

  • As gay/queer men, we've faced many challenges, from bullying to family acceptance. Regardless of our upbringing, feeling different was common for all gay men, leading to insecurities. 

  • In this phase, we'll create a healing space and build resilience, helping you move past these insecurities to a more confident you. 

  • Soon, you will leave the armour off, setting aside the masks at the door, not being on guard to check about the next person who comes in, and embracing being heinously yourself.

BELONG AS A GAY MAN

  • The gay community is diverse. With your newfound confidence and healed insecurities, it’s time to find where you belong.

  • Embrace not just gay bars but social, professional, sports, reading groups, and more. Identify the people and communities that resonate with who you really are and build your own gay/queer family. 

  • Find your space, feel the warm hug of belonging, and be unequivocally yourself, without masks or hiding. Feel accepted and right at home.

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CURIOUS TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE ONLINE GAY COACHING PROGRAMME?

SEAMLESS HOME-BASED COACHING SESSIONS

  • Comfort of home-based sessions

  • 4 months of 1:1 online or in-person coaching with me

  • With video sessions every 2 weeks

  • Email and get a response in 24 hours

  • Online videos to help you in all aspects of building your confidence and the next steps in your life

  • Online Worksheets centre 

  • Convenience of doing this from home

FREE Gay Confidence Kit
 

Start building your confidence in just 5 minutes.

Download my Confidence Kit, and boost your confidence with clear, simple actions.

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