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Hello, I'm Phil
A Gay Confidence Coach

My Journey to Finding My Confidence as a Gay Man

My name is Phil, and I've always embraced my contradictions. I love meditation and yoga, but I also love bodybuilding and good food, making me more bear! I navigate the balance of being a sexual fetishist and a demisexual. My career as an international executive coexists with my involvement in the fetish lifestyle.

But I Struggled with Self-Esteem as a Gay Man

I've been successful as an international executive, from startups to UK broadcasters, but I struggled with confidence and fulfilment. Not fitting into one box impacted my confidence and left me feeling less fulfilled. Going out to gay bars or fetish events was challenging.

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And I Also Struggled with Gay Body Image Issues

I also struggled with my body image as a gay man, spending countless hours at the gym to feel accepted and 'OK.' Despite my efforts, I ended up seriously ill and gained weight again, feeling like I did not belong.

 

In 2016, I moved to Berlin for a new beginning. I found myself struggling with the same issues, and I faced depression. But then I discovered how to create my own resilience and confidence. 

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But I Found My Confidence as a Gay Man

Over the past six years, I have transformed my life, embracing my unique identity and finding a community that feels like family. I have let go of the masks I used to wear and found fulfilment in work and life.

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I found my confidence and let go of the masks I used to wear when meeting all the different people, and I have found work and a life that fulfils me.

Is this all there is for a life as a gay man?

​I moved from feeling my life was flat and empty and wondering if this was all there was, to discovering my passions and finding joy that did not rely on the validation of others

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I discovered a passion for creating a website and podcast on the Gay/Kink Fetish Lifestyle, reaching over 10,000 people monthly. I coach founders of queer initiatives, run unique workshops, and help people find their confidence. As a successful business leader, I drive diversity and inclusion in startups.

 

I transformed from having no confidence to being a recognised voice. Now, I’m here to help you find your confidence, let go of your masks, and find fulfilment. Let’s start your journey together—set up a free call with me today.

Build unbreakable resilience and find your gay confidence!

More about me

HOW I WORK AS A GAY COACH

  • I work with a high level of awareness 

  • I always work with you with truthful, sincere generosity

  • I am always supportive yet challenging when you need me to be

  • I coach from the heart

  • I approach each person and problem without judgement or shame, 

  • I deal with any problem, issue or goal you provide impartially and neutrally with no bias

  • I provide a safe and supportive environment for you to be open about any issues or thoughts you may have

  • Kink and BDSM Friendly

  • LGBTQIA Friendly

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 Check out my code of ethics

HOW PEOPLE DESCRIBE ME AS A GAY COACH

  • Insightful

  • Knowledgable 

  • Supportive and empathic 

  • Unlocking potential

  • Fair

  • Authentic

MY VALUES AS LGBTQ COACH

  • Creativity

  • Resilience 

  • Perspective

  • Leadership

  • Love of learning

  • Curiosity

  • Fairness

  • Integrity

  • Kindness

  • Friendly to all - including all of the LGBTIQ+ family

FREE Gay Confidence Kit
 

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